Monday, June 29, 2009

So It Begins...

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Wanted to share this clip from last night's BET Awards show in LA with Joe Jackson, Michael's father doing an on-camera interview that is both sad and weird. It's strange to see Mr. Jackson plug his recording ventures and elude to business matters during such a time as this. Of course we all grieve differently, but when the publicist reads that bland statement I really felt so profoundly sadden by this display of spin control.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing BET Awards "Joe Jackson"

Is it me or does Joe Jackson bear a strange resemblance to 'Blackula'? (Hey, don't get mad at me for having eyes)

I'll of course have much more to say on this ongoing series of events. Stay tuned...

Friday, June 26, 2009

Michael Jackson - Music of The Icon

By S-Dot The S-Dot Files

Here's my playlist dedicated to Michael Jackson. I hope you enjoy this sampling of some of his most memorable moments in music.

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Michael Jackson "The Icon"

MJJ - Living Icon

Farewell Michael Joseph Jackson, I pray that you find favor and grace in your final resting place.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

A Song for Taylor & Indi

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing The Whitehead Bros. "Beautiful Black Princess"

Beatiful Black Princess - Whitehead Brothers

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Before I Let You Go

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing BlackStreet “Happy Home”

17 Happy Home.wma - BlackStreet

Click by and check out the playlists today!

CAUTION: This book will cause cheaters to panic and sleepers to wake up!

Just because you have it going on sexually, doesn’t mean you can’t be hurt emotionally. In fact, when I tied my self-worth to my sexual identity is when I was wounded the most severe.

I once dated this med student (“B”) that was unquestionably wife-material, but I still wasn’t husband-ready. We both knew and discussed that upfront. She saw “something special” in me and wanted to just “chill” until I opened my eyes. Of course being a player, I had no problem “running the clock,” which is what players do when they waste someone’s time with no intention of allowing them to actually score a commitment (win).

Anyway, we had romantic dinners. There were many nights when we simply just watched videos or listened to old school CDs singing along being silly sipping white zifandel. I spent intimate evenings reading to her when it rained, which calmed her down because she hated the thunder and would cry when she saw lightning. We shopped together and did one another’s weekly laundry. Went to family functions together. Eventually, we visited one another’s relatives, even in the hospital.

My family elders counseled, “Boy, don’t you screw this up.”

I was diggin’ her and totally intimidated by the feelings she inspired in me. I felt myself getting dizzy and starting to swoon when we kissed at times. Everyone that knows me knows I’m not a kisser. So, that was yet another barrier that I broke down with her.

We did all the things couples do, but I always reminded her after she’d look at me with those beautiful doe-eyes, “You know we’re just kickin’ it right?” And she’d say, “Don’t worry Mr. Man, I know you don’t want to settle down. At least not with me. I understand.” Then she’d give herself to me physically with such intensity that I came to recognize this cat-and-mouse scenario was mutually arousing for both of us.

That thang had us jonesin’ hard.

I even thought about giving her the elusive “key” one day. But then I woke up and realized I was having a nightmare.

One night coming from a party, we were drag racing this Puerto Rican couple in a Mustang on the FDR blasting Blackstreet’s “Baby Be Mine” from their debut album, and I serenaded her doing 90 mph. It was so erotic, we pulled over after we crossed the Brooklyn Bridge, and found a spot where we tore it down right there on the side of the road. At 3 a.m. in the morning. It was scorching hot! Our relationship had an unquenchable passion to it.

Until this day, I can’t hear the songs, “U Blow My Mind” “Physical Thing” and “Make U Wet” and not smile.

( ( ( Peep Game ) ) )
Keys to the Kingdom is a tactic that widows use…a guy may buy his nagging girlfriend a ring to make her “wifey” but she’ll suffocate holding her breath waiting for them to actually get married. Sure, he’ll give you the keys to the…but there’ll be no driving. You’re going for that fool’s gold.

From the forthcoming book, Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself (RTK Communications)

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Friday, June 12, 2009

Imagine That!!!

Yippee!!! It's time for Taylor and I to finally go and see "Imagine That" this weekend. Check out the trailer.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Imagine That movie trailer

We've been looking forward to this for months since it's similar to our own daddy daughter story. Taylor used to come into the office all the time when I was at the helm of the magazine. She'd walk around the office with her little clipboard "interviewing" the models, celebs and others for the magazine. It was so cute.

Now, it's in theaters. Check it out if you get a chance and let me know your thoughts.

Also, it's Relationship Weekend at EBC as well. Yep, singles, singles and more singles. This promises to be a very interesting weekend. Tonight is Game Night (bring an unattached friend, you're NOT interested in for some cards, boardgames and Wii), tomorrow are the relationship workshops and Sunday sums up a transformative experience for those who are single, involved and married.

If you can, come out and join us. It's going to be a great time.

Oh, and shout out to Derrick Phillips from the Real Dads Network who's featured in a one-page piece in today's Daily News' Spotlight on Great People section. The piece is entitled "Fighting to Preserve Family" features him alongside Tammy Greer Brown, president and CEO of Celebrating Real Family Life giving an account of brother Derrick's steadfast resolve to becoming the dad he never had for his two daughters Jordyn, 13 and Maya, 9 with his wife Maria.

Good stuff, brother Derrick. I'm very proud of you. Keep up the great work, and don't stop winning the good fight.

In the World…
50’s scent Power is coming to Macy’s this fall for those of you folks that want to smell like your wealthy. Do you smell that? It smells like...kaching (lol).

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Today Was a Great Day!!!

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Jay-Z "Death of Auto Tune"

A moment of silence...La da da da hey hey hey...gooodbye!!!

THE STREETS ARE TALKING: Skinny jeans are officially over! Let them go. Ringtone rap is hereby placed on probation until further notice. And Auto Tune is a wrap!

And now back to blogging...

Ever have one of those days that you know you'll remember fondly throughout your life? I had one of them today.

It wasn't one particular thing, but rather the culmination of several that made this day standout. Let's see...I got up and lollygagged around around until 1 p.m. Then I did laundry, which is always therapeutic for me. Nothing like clean underwear to make you feel all brand-new. LOL. Then I went home and got all swaggerific and spiffy in a two-piece, double-breasted suit, powder blue button down with french cuffs, some D&G Light Blue and my swags (shades) and it was on and poppin'. I was ready to go.

So, I met up with my attention-grabber (codename: "Eartha") on the subway, and we went to the Real Dads Network's Celebration of Black Fathers semi-formal dinner in Harlem. She was wearing a really cute black dress with a shawl and nice clutch. Her shoes were in her hand and she was wearing ballet shoes. She said, "When we get there, I can put these ballet shoes in my bag." Gangster! Of course, we arrived 45 minutes from the scheduled time, which was actually 15 minutes before the time it started. Which meant, we were able to go window shop on 125th for a few minutes and I got to watch her catwalk and simply be beautiful. She's quite a looker. Definitely different. Can't put my finger on why...but I'm enjoying this getting-to-know each other phase.

You know that tension and anticipation of knowing you're going to hang out with someone and you're self conscious of everything from your deodorant to your breath mints? Or maybe that's just me. LOL

Anyway, the awards ceremony was great. We were both talking about food en route, so we arrived hungry. Soon as we sat down she was like, "Ummm...they've got salad over there. I'm starving. I hope they're going to serve the food during the awards." I had to respect her steez. I love a woman that is not afraid to say she's hungry. LOL She kept it real talk. We tore that salad up, and it was kinda cool when she reached for and handed me a roll. That's when I realized, I haven't been out on a REAL date in a minute. LOL I stole a few glances at her. I busted her stealing some back. We smiled and visually flirted. She's got such a beautiful smile. I know I said that, but that woman could do a toothpaste commercial.

Then her leg touched mines under the table and I felt that jolt of electricity. Damn, I thought I was in the movie Grease, I could've sworn I heard somebody (okay it was my overactive imagination) say, "I got chills / they're multiplying / power / it's electrifying." As you can read, I clearly need to get out more...

Where was I? Okay, so brother John Amos of the classic tv show "Good Times" and the mini-series "Roots" was given a Lifetime achievement award tonight by my dude Derrick Phillips, Executive Director of the RDN. John Amos kept it real talk throughout his acceptance monologue. He shared some of his life's testimony. In particular, how his dad abandoned him when he was 2 years old, and his mom told him to grow up and be strong so he could find his dad and "whip his *ss." We were crying with laughter. John is hilarious. Then he shared how he later came to live with that very same dad and was honored to come to know him as a man. John said that the James Evans character was patterned after his own father, who was a man of integrity and stood up for his family, right or wrong. At one point, this accomplished writer, actor, producer and legend broke down in tears sharing portions of his life. It was touching to see and inspiring to witness.

These days...The John Amos Radio Show with co-host Terahshea McCray comes on daily from noon to 1 p.m. EST on featuring healthy lifestyle topics ranging from nutrition to exercise, click by and check it out. He's also starring in a Halley's Comet, a thought-provoking one man show directed by John Harris Jr. that takes the audience on a 76 year journey through the life experiences of a man looking back on everything from the ozone layer to the civil rights movement.

Also in the house was sister Terri M. Williams, author, advocate and media maverick whose portfolio of titles includes: Black Pain, A Plentiful Harvest, Stay Strong and Personal Touch. It's always a joy and inspiration to see this trailblazer in public relations. If you, or someone you know is suffering and struggling with depression, click by and check out what's new with this dynamic, passionate woman of purpose:

Finally, it was also great to listen to 16-year old singing sensation Najiyah Threatt's rousing rendition of "Hero." She's so talented and geniunely committed artist to honing her craft faithfully.

Well, that's enough sharing for now. Thanks for reading. Have a blessed day. Thanks to all my brothers from the Real Dads Network for yet another outstanding event.

( ( ( Man Up! ) ) ) - Making Connections One Dad at Time

Saturday, June 6, 2009

Exposing the Game & Overcoming the Booty Excerpts

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Here's an excerpt to get you motivated...until Exposing the Game debuts. Enjoy!

“I wasn’t addicted to sex; I was strung out on a desire for love.”

( ( ( Peep Game ) ) )

THE ISOLATIONIST wants to sequester you away from those who exercise discretion and judgment. They sell you a dream of solitude to lure you away from others who can see through their falsehood. An advanced isolationist will make this all seem like your idea too.

Blurring the line is a process of placing prey under subjugation through a copulation technique called the ‘cuddle huddle’ that lulls them asleep. Done effectively, the intended person will lose their grip on actuality, becoming open to being reprogrammed with an alternate reality. They’ll see whatever the widow allows them to see. Hence, blurring the line of what’s really going on.

To accomplish this, a black widow learns how-to manipulate its prey sexually and increase their dependence on the oxytocin (commonly called the “love hormone” in women) released after stimulating encounters. Serotonin boning raises a partner’s levels during intimacy increasing the likelihood of turning a mark into a ‘Toby’.

The Other “O
Oxytocin zaps the heart and clobbers an unsuspecting partner over the head with sexually-induced amnesia.

Don’t isolate yourself. It’s important that you establish and sustain a network that affirms and supports your personal growth.

--- Get your copy of the book that's Exposing the Game, teaching the truth and demonstrates the proof. Got Played? It's time to learn the "secret" rules of the game, by a retired MVP player.

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And now a watch-n-learn clip from the Got Played Archives on the campus of UNC

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Cheating Girlfriend Gets Owned

The S-Dot Files presents Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself and OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex (RTK Communications, 2009).

( ( ( Are You Dating-to-Save? ) ) )

A relational mismatch is when you're seeking love and receiving lust. You desire certainty and you're left with insecurity.

How-to grow in your relationships
1. Identify your stumbling blocks
2. Develop a hurdle jumping strategy
3. Put it in practice
4. Proceed with caution

Don't run...It’s time to OVERCOME.
Meet 9ine this fall in the explosive book that took 40 years to live...and started a movement. Here's an excerpt from the ‘get-over-it’ guide that everyone will be pretending they’re not reading (wink, wink):

9ine with all her spiritual credentials and theological academic training, in the end was still a woman that was unwilling to be faithful to God’s promise of real love. She, like me, struggled with her flesh. Having been similarly conditioned to mistake physical affection for genuine interest, she became the aggressor in our relationship intimately. We spent a number of times together with me clawing her hands from my crotch or begging her, “Woman, you need to stop…” as she soul kissed me her delicious mouth.

Don’t think that I was entirely innocent either. I was kissing and fondling back. But what I needed at that point was someone to tell me, “No, you’ve got to go.” But, we were in GodSexy…that thang the world can’t and won’t understand.

Find out what happens...Labor Day Weekend...OVERCOMING the BOOTY it’s time to start Breaking the Sex Hex.

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