Thursday, October 29, 2009

Lessons From the Well

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

On this week's show (episode #14) join us for "Down With O.P.P." a real-talk discussion on love + life this Friday, October 30th at 10:00 p.m. - midnight.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Beverly B Woman at the Well

If you are at the "well" of life, don't let others block your blessings in the lessons that your lived experiences can teach you and others. Don't be ashamed of your journey, claim your future.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Single And Loving It...Kinda Sort Of (lol)

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Okay, today's the ANNIVERSARY. Yeah, me. Go me.

Had to cancel Friday's show because a leadership meeting ran later than expected, but it was worth it. So, now tonight's show is to make up for Friday's and my homie author, overcomer Kimberly L. Scott (Product of Grace) will be co-hosting with me. Hope you can click by and weigh in @ 9 p.m. Call-in 347.308.8527 to share your thoughts.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Throw’D TV “Facebook Breakups”

Have you been LOLing with someone else? Are you checking their status updates daily? Right clicking and saving their pics?

Yep, you’re having a virtual affair. Don’t deny, all anyone has to do is read those comments.

You should be ashamed of yourself. Never even met them and you’re being such an eHo.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Confessions of a Caramel Goddess “Hair It Is”

It’s not you, it’s your hair style. No seriously, it’s your hair style.
If you want that bi-racial look to your hair, this is a very good instructional video from Ms. Jennifer Kemp, a sister that’s practical and informative. I think it’s great who real she keeps it with making sure the process incorporates cost-conscious products. Now, you’ve got no more excuses for looking tore up from the floor. Step your game up.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Confessions of a Caramel Goddess “I’m Single Because?”

Are you also tired of talking about your singleness? There’s really nothing that we have to make excuses for. We’re enjoying our alone time before we have to be considerate and mindful of having a partner. That time will come in its due season. To rush to get into it without coming to an appreciation for your singleness will usually result in that person being a “single-married man/woman.” They will be discontent where they end up feeling as if they’ve settled and they’re missing out on something. Therefore, it’s essential that each of us appreciate our singleness. As Jennifer says: “Be content where you are, and happy where you are.”

Who is Jennifer Kemp? She’s a fashionista that attends the Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC, her style and influence are glam rock and rocker chic that candidly shares her stitch and seam visions and dreams in the blogosphere on youtube and wordpress.

Friday, October 16, 2009

When Real People Talk Fake People Walk

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

As you can see The BOOTY Call Show now has a swanky new logo thanks to a collab with my dude JQ from (good look).

It's great when you can call someone and tell them you need something and they say, "come through, let's get it done." Unlike the haters that always try to run your clock. They'll make promises like, "okay, I'll call you back..." and then you don't hear from until you leave them 3 messages and happen to bump into them someplace. Of course the first thing out of their mouth usually is, "...I got your messages..." which is probably why your mind wonders, "so if you got them, why the hell didn't you return them?" But nonetheless, you watch them fidget around and shift their weight to their right heel, while averting direct eye contact.

TRANSLATION: they're lying.

And it's not even like you're buying it, it's just that...I'm saying. I totally had a point in the beginning of this and then my fingers just kept typing as if I was speaking out loud. I'm not going to delete/edit this. I'm just going to leave it. You see when you're really doing you, you don't worry if others get it - you've got it. It's not that you're on your own d*ck, but rather you're not on anyone elses.

You feel me?

Okay, I've got a meeting to get to in 90 minutes, a show to do in 4 hours and I still don't know what I'm talking about. Imagine that... Hey, I may just play music. You never know. Anyway, tonight on The BOOTY Call Show is episode #12 and it's entitled, "Can We Talk?" This is inspired in part by my co-moderating a discussion next week at EBC. I'll definitely let you know how that goes... Here's the flyer.

Cool huh? Yep, so it's going to be real talk with singles and couples discussing the challenges of waiting, dating and mating in an open forum. I promise to not hog the mic and listen reflectively, exercise restraint and utilize discernment. Seriously, I do. No, seriously I do. LOL

Don't forget, tonight's the night on The BOOTY Call Show @ 10 p.m. - midnight.

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Dial 347.308.8527 from your home, mobile or office phone and press "1" to speak.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Know Thyself

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Did you know that the reason some people are pains in the *ss is because they're really afflicted with parasites? Seriously, the average person is totally ignorant of the necessity of total wellness because we've been conditioned to rely on healthcare rather than practice self-care.

In the book, "Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself" I delve into a process of removing the physical, emotional and spiritual parasites from your life throughout the book. It's a very thought-provoking dialogue which took many years to research.

Parasites use a Trojan horse plan of attack

This illustration shows how parasites contribute to the formulation of Malaria.

The parasite of religosity is also very dangerous

This is why it's essential that each of us be mindful about the spiritual coverings we submit and commit to ensuring they are in alignment with the Most High, not merely those who have call themselves to laud over others.

What are you giving birth to?

The above is from a person who had a uterine fibroid removed which also spring forth from parasite.

Know thy self...indeed.

Monday, October 12, 2009

Still Moooonnnkeying Around...

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Hmm...this doll could be endorsed by the "Boss" rapper William Leonard "Rick Ross" Roberts II who's also fond of calling black people "moooooonnnnkey" as he repeatedly said to 50 Cent during their recent beef in which he got pummeled into virtual obscurity. So, if we're going to get mad about Costco selling lil' monkey dolls, get mad about Rick Ross and stop giving him a pass because you nod your head to his music. It's terrible that they would put out a product like this, but its hypocritical for us to get upset about them and then not deal with our own. Remember, Rick Ross began making those mooooooooonnnnnkey" comments mere days after the cartoon illustration depicting President Obama as a monkey. Let's stop the double-standards. If it's wrong for "them" it's wrong for "us" too.

Let's end the mongrelization of ALL people of color by ALL people.

Stop monkeying around people. Get Your Mind Right, it's not a Game out here. On this week's The BOOTY Call Show we're going to be doing it a little different. Stay tuned for details during the week.

In the meantime, and in between time, check out last Friday's show episode #10, "Reclaiming Your Personal Power" and don't forget to peep the archives to catch up.

Thursday, October 8, 2009


Got ho self-esteem? Here's a flashback from the past.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Salt-n-Pepa "Tramp"

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Shawty Put f/Lil Jon "Dat Baby"

Wednesday, October 7, 2009


Just because some call you unapproachable, doesn’t mean you’re not coachable.

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Sometimes we become stagnant in our growth because we don’t reexamine our approach to personal development. We change people, places and things, but until we commit to change ourselves, we’ll keep ending up with the same results. Ask yourself: whose baggage am I carrying?

You’re a Pigeon
Keep it 100 – you’re no swan or dove, especially when surrounded by your bird brain entourage of cluck heads. “If you’re an eagle, stop hanging out with pigeons,” is what I tell singles that desire to get to the next-level in love + life.

You’re A Lemon Head
If people nicknamed your street Sour Patch Lane that’s an indicator that you need to stop being so bitter and focus on becoming better. The only one that want to hang out with misery is…misery.

You Talk Too Much
If you’re always talking that’s a telling sign you’re not a good listener. Sure we all can get chatty sometimes, but you have learn to appreciate having a Jodeci moment – Don’t talk…Just listen.

You’re A Ho
Hey, if that’s who and what you are – be and do you. However, someone that desires a housewife would be unwise to get involved with you will you’re still in your ho season exhibiting ho self-esteem.

Until next time…Be 100% authentically Y-O-U!

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Reclaiming Your Personal Power

It's time to reclaim your personal power today!

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Recently, I began challenging the life-limiting double standards that are in man-to-woman relationships leading to many men surrendering their personal power to women by being manipulated into having sexual relationships. I’ve been a guest and sharer on a number of shows on waiting, dating and mating issues. Here’s an exchange from one this week where the topic was “Is it Difficult to Be Celibate & Should Black Women Date Outside of Their Race?”

S-Dot on Talk About It Today! With Mo Stegall on BlogTalkRadio 10/5/09 show

S-Dot: When I made that decision (to get my mind right), that decision, although I was attending church and so forth, that wasn’t about church. That was about me deciding that I wasn’t going to allow some woman to kill me with a disease. And when I got to that point in my growth, I recognized that a lot of the sex that I was having, I wasn’t having actual intimacy. It was just a lot of sex. And I won’t stand here and act like it was terrible because while I was doing it, it was a good time.

Mo Stegall: You enjoyed every bit of it!

S-Dot: Absolutely! But one of the best things that I know and I recognize where I am right now, is that, when I removed having all the sexual activity with women, I began to gain a lot of clarity in terms of my relationships. So, you know…BBD has the song, “You can’t trust a big butt and a smile that girl is poison”

Mo Stegall: You got that right.

S-Dot: Well, now I’m better able to see those who are poisonous. You know it’s interesting because…you know, I’m far from an unattractive man, and I meet a lot of women, and the women that I meet they immediately want to try to have sex. And when I tell them you know, “I’m not interested in that,” the first thing out of their mouth is, “are you gay?”

Mo Stegall: Right.

S-Dot: And it’s a question of my manhood. However, when a woman makes a decision about going through a period of celibacy, whether it’s until she’s married, or it’s because she’s at a point where she wants to get her mind right – that question isn’t there. But when a man does that, it’s all of a sudden a matter of challenging his manhood. So, why do you think that is?

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Stay tuned for Episode #10 of The BOOTY Call Show on Blog Talk Radio
On this empowering show inspiring author, motivational speaker and empowerment coach S-Dot will share his intuitive insights and lived-and-learned wisdom from "Exposing the Game" on love + life with singles and couples that are ready to get to the next-level in their relationships by reclaiming their personal power. Grab a pen and pad to take notes it's going to be an informative show of transformational conversation with some surprise guests. Friday, October 9th at 10 p.m. Call-in to share your thoughts from your mobile, home or office phone 347.308.8527

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Funeral Arrangements for John "Mr. Magic" Rivas (R.I.P.) will be this Thursday, October 8th at 10 a.m.

Where: St. Barbara’s Roman Catholic Church, 138 Bleeker St (Bet Central & Wilson Ave) - Bushwick, Bklyn