Wednesday, December 30, 2009

End of Year Beatdowns!!!

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

According to false reports in the New York Post, Queen of Hip Hop Soul Mary J. Blige was involved in a physical altercation with her husband, producer Kendu Isaacs. There have been unsubstantiated reports that Mary remarked to her husband, “What are you gonna do, Chris Brown me?” Wow, that’s illmatic! However, the Daily News has spoken with MJB’s publicist Karynne Tencer who confirmed that the singer was actually breaking up a fight between her husband and brother. There was no retraction printed by the New York Post for getting the facts wrong.

Here’s scenes from the event…

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing MJB the Release Party Altercation


When will the DOMESTIC VIOLENCE end?



Next, up producer Teddy Riley will be ineligible to attend the Real Dads NetworksDaddy Daughter Dance” on February 13, 2010 in NYC because he’s apparently --- NOT A GOOD DAD. The singer was arrested for beating his 18-year old daughter Taja Riley with an electric guitar.



Here are the Riley girls

Yes, an electric guitar. The dispute stems from his daughters being upset about the presence of about the presence of the 43-year old Teddy’s 21-year old 21-year old (same age as daughter Deja Riley) “golddigger” girlfriend. Here are some of the tweets from his two daughters.



So tweets...Ms. Deja



So tweets...Ms. Taja

Stay tuned for updates on tonight's show "Are You A Rooster?" (episode #25) on The BOOTY Call Show - Call-in 347.308.8527 @ 9 - 11pm (eastern).

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

The Vixen Chronicles...

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files



Hmmm...seems someone wants even more attention. Why does no one see that this young, confused woman's cry for attention is dysfunctional and she truly needs some help?



This isn't the behavior that you encourage of someone that's been a VICTIM it's the act of someone that wants to be idolized at all costs, even to the detriment of themselves. Let's stop looking the other way and recognize that this is a cry for intervention. Puhleeeeeeze!!!

Women you're not empowering yourself by reducing yourself to a jerk-off jumpoff in a men's magazine. You might think that you're gaining control, but you're actually compromising and monetizing your soul. You'll notice how she keeps making mention of others perceiving her as being in league with darkness lately, which is something that should make you pause and take notice of the reality that she's engaged in spiritual warfare, entombed in a mental prison and lashing out physically at her unaddressed demons. I sincerly pray that Rihanna comes to her senses and this senseless path that she's on ends soon. Let's learn from the examples of Aaliyah (notice what happened after she signed on to do that vampire role?) and Left Eye (notice the "manifestations" of paranormal entities she encountered just before her untimely demise?) tragedies when someone is putting themselves at risk. Puhleeeeze someone intervene.

In other news...


The Queen of Hip Hop Soul Mary J. Blige returns with her new album "Stronger With Each Tear" next week. Yipeee!!!

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Niggativity: the Bondage of a Generation

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Click by to connect + reflect on The BOOTY Call Show presented by The S-Dot Files on BlogTalkRadio – Fridays, 10 p.m. – midnight (Eastern).

News from the Skinny Jeans War… “Elephants don’t swat flies” – R. Kelly in response to Trey Songz disses (Hmmm...)

Did you miss last week’s show? Well, now you can download Niggativity: The Bondage of a Generation? (episode #22) and the archives to your desktop, iPod and other mobile devices to listen at your convenience That’s right, you can hear it and share it with others.

I had an engaging conversation with motivational authors Corey Washington (“Plain Talk: Everything You Ever and Never Wanted to Know About Racism” a poignant examination of the social musings about race), Hasheem Francis (“Built to Prosper” a wealth-builders empowerment tool) and writer/poet Young Jonesy joined in as well to share some real talk about how the ‘MJB Syndrome’ has impacted the mindset of women in the Black community and the ‘Spirit of G-Money’ has possessed Black men standing around on the intersections of love + life. The chat room was alive with some thought-provoking conversation as well on the socio-political issues of the N-word and the racial identity crisis of this generation.

Click by to connect + reflect on The BOOTY Call Show hosted by inspiring author, motivational speaker and empowerment coach S-Dot presented by The S-Dot Files on BlogTalkRadio – Fridays, 10 p.m. – midnight (Eastern).



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Friday, December 4, 2009

Keeping it 100: Do You Already!

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files



( ( ( Now Hear This ) ) )


Peops,


I just wanted to post this blog announcement for tonight's show (episode #20) at 10 p.m. - midnight (eastern) entitled, "Keeping it 100" which is based upon my forthcoming eBook of the same name that debuts in January 2010 on RTK Communications (stay tuned for details). Here's the books table of contents:

KEEPING IT 100: Being Your Authentic Self by Shaam S-Dot Jones

10 FACE OFF Looking in the Mirror

20 YOU DOWN WITH OPP? Other People’s Problems

30 SWAGGER v. SUBSTANCE Beyond the Smoke and Mirrors

40 WHY YOU’RE STILL NOT MARRIED From a Hoe to a Housewife

50 METOX: Get Over Yourself Already!

60 THE RULE OF K.I.M. The Keeping it Moving Principle

70 DON’T STOP THE LOVE Developing a Hi-Hater Plan

80 NOW THAT’S REAL TALK Got Questions? Get Answers

90 GETTING YOUR MIND RIGHT The Empowerment Tool Box

96 S-DOT SPEAKS Interview with an MVP of the Game


ON TONIGHT'S TALK MENU...

“My minds telling me no, but my body’s telling me yes. I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump-n-grind.” – R. Kelly


1. Last night, I had to break up a real-life Chris & Rhianna drama, so of course you know we'll be talking about that and the recent "Tiger Woods" drama too. It's going to be real talk. The gloves are off, it's time to have some no holds barred conversation about passive-aggressive women and abusive men embroiled in narcissistic relationships that are dysfunctional. Let's continue last show's "Domestic Silence" dialogue (go back and listen to episode #19 in the archives)


Real Talk: If you want to get married, you need to work on being single.


2. We'll have some movie therapy using the film "Not Easily Broken" starring Morris Chestnut & Taraji P. Henson which deals with a couple at a crossroad when her mama won't stay out of their business. Are you down with O.P.P.? - Other People's Problems? Listen in and learn how-to mind your business and focus on getting your mind right.


Name five movies that inspire you:


1. ____________________________________________________________________________



2. ____________________________________________________________________________



3. ____________________________________________________________________________



4. ____________________________________________________________________________



5. ____________________________________________________________________________



Name the movie that best describes your life:

______________________________________________________________________________



3. Do you need a Metox? Is it time for you to get over yourself? We'll be sharing some practical tips and insights on how-to get to next-level in your personal development.


THIS WEEK'S EMPOWERMENT TIP:

Stop handcuffing those trying to get free. If you don’t want to be with them, let them go so they can grow. There’s no need to hate on them.


4. We'll delve into our Now That's Real Talk - got questions? get answers segment. Here's tonight's question:


Dear S-Dot,

I can’t stop thinking about an abortion I had when I was 16. It’s been over 12 years, but I still keep dwelling on it. Every year I have nightmares around the time of what would’ve been my due date and this has been an issue in getting close to others. My fiancĂ© says he wants kids, but I feel like I don’t deserve to be a mother. I haven’t shared this with him. Any thoughts how I can get past this?


What advice would you give this person? Join us in the chat room or call-in to share your thoughts. Help a sister out!


Feel free to forward this to others (hint, hint - smile) and I look forward to speaking with you tonight at 10 p.m. - midnight (eastern) on The BOOTY Call Show presented by The S-Dot Files exclusively on BlogTalkRadio.

The BOOTY Call Show’s mission is to free the lame from being pawns in the Game by sharing the explicit truth about love + life with those who’ve been played, and are ready to discover the tools and unspoken “rules” of relationships.

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Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Let's End the Domestic Silence



( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Rihanna on Good Morning America Interview
Rihanna's interview on Good Morning America
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By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

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Happy Thanksgiving,

You have so much to be thankful for. Don’t you?

Join us this Friday, November 27th @ 10 p.m. – midnight (eastern) for episode #19 “Domestic Silence” on The BOOTY Call Show with S-Dot & Friends. We’ll be discussing the current state of relationships between men & women.

Has a “mouth” problem led to a “hand” problem? Suffering from the MJBs? Are you in a verbal or physically abusive relationship? Let’s keep it REAL talk.

“How you gonna win when you ain’t right within?” – Lauryn Hill, Doo Wop (That Thing)

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Chris Brown on The Wendy Williams Show


LET’S END THE DOMESTIC SILENCE…
Many guys today are being henpecked by emasculating women with “mouth” problems that have been socialized to believe they need to conceal a man’s testicles in their purses in order to gain control of him. This has led to countless men running in the opposite direction, tuning them out entirely (notice the rise of skinny jeans wearers), and sadly in some cases developing “hand” problems in response to this abusive behavior. It’s time to end the ‘domestic silence’ in our relationships and have REAL talk about REAL things with REAL people.

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If you or someone you know is involved in an abusive relationship, get help now! Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY) - it's anonymus & confidential.

FYI: Web Safety Guidelines
If you bookmark this or any other site about domestic violence, the fact that you've been seeking information or help may be discovered by someone you prefer didn't know. So as a safeguard, you may either want to 1) access this site from somewhere other than home; or 2) clear all cache, cookies and history files from your web browser.

See the helpful information below and follow the instructions for eliminating traces of your visit to this website.

Cookies and cache
Temporary Internet files, or cache, contain a "travel record" of the items you have seen, heard, or downloaded from the web, including images, sounds, web pages, even cookies. Cookies are cryptic bookmarks that a website can place on your computer to acknowledge your prior visit, authenticate your access or let you continue surfing a site from where you last left off. They can leave a trail of evidence of where you have been on the web. So if you visit a website on domestic violence and a cookie is created, others can trace your trail and discover where you've been.

Clear the cache for Internet Explorer 6
1. Click "Start" and select "Control Panel." (Note: With Windows XP Classic View click the Windows "Start" button and select "Settings" and "Control Panel").
2. Open the "Internet Options" icon.
3. Click the "General" tab if it isn't selected already.
4. Under the heading "Temporary Internet files," click "Delete Files...".
5. Click "OK" to exit.

Clear cookies for Internet Explorer 6
1. Click "Start" and select "Control Panel." (Note: Windows XP Classic View click the Windows "Start" button and select "Settings" and "Control Panel").
2. Open the "Internet Options" icon.
3. Click the "General" tab if it isn't selected already.
4. Under the heading "Temporary Internet files," click on "Delete Cookies...".
5. Click "OK" for the "Delete all cookies in the Temporary Internet Files folder?" prompt.
6. Click "OK" to exit.

SOURCE: http://www.domesticviolencecenter.org/links-and-resources/web-safety.htm


Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Are You Wearing A Wire?

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

A lot of people can benefit from paying attention to the mistakes of others. Mr. Magic used to famously say on the Rap Attack, "A wise man learns from a fool." If you're in fool's paradise or watching someone else who is PAY ATTENTION.

Don't be a lame, peep Game. The Game don't stop just because you take off your uniform, hang up your glove or decide you to don't want to play anymore.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing The Wire "100 Greatest Quotes"


On this week's show (episode #18) on The BOOTY Call Show the topic will be "Domestic Silence" that's right, we're going there. Join us this Friday at 10 p.m. - midnight (eastern). Call-in 347.308.8527 click by The BOOTY Call Show with S-Dot on BlogTalkRadio.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Mary J. Blige Syndrome

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Are you still searching for a real love? Do you just want to be happy? Perhaps you're finally just fine now that you've grown stronger. Well, on tomorrow night's The BOOTY Call Show we'll be discussing Exposing the Game's chapter, "MJB Syndrome."

Join us for REAL talk with REAL people about REAL things.



And now without further ado...the undisputable Queen of Hip Hop Soul...

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Mary J. Blige "National Anthem @ Game 6"

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Lessons From the Well

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

On this week's show (episode #14) join us for "Down With O.P.P." a real-talk discussion on love + life this Friday, October 30th at 10:00 p.m. - midnight.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Beverly B Woman at the Well


If you are at the "well" of life, don't let others block your blessings in the lessons that your lived experiences can teach you and others. Don't be ashamed of your journey, claim your future.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Single And Loving It...Kinda Sort Of (lol)

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Okay, today's the ANNIVERSARY. Yeah, me. Go me.

Had to cancel Friday's show because a leadership meeting ran later than expected, but it was worth it. So, now tonight's show is to make up for Friday's and my homie author, overcomer Kimberly L. Scott (Product of Grace) will be co-hosting with me. Hope you can click by and weigh in @ 9 p.m. Call-in 347.308.8527 to share your thoughts.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Throw’D TV “Facebook Breakups”


Have you been LOLing with someone else? Are you checking their status updates daily? Right clicking and saving their pics?

Yep, you’re having a virtual affair. Don’t deny, all anyone has to do is read those comments.

You should be ashamed of yourself. Never even met them and you’re being such an eHo.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Confessions of a Caramel Goddess “Hair It Is”


It’s not you, it’s your hair style. No seriously, it’s your hair style.
If you want that bi-racial look to your hair, this is a very good instructional video from Ms. Jennifer Kemp, a sister that’s practical and informative. I think it’s great who real she keeps it with making sure the process incorporates cost-conscious products. Now, you’ve got no more excuses for looking tore up from the floor. Step your game up.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Confessions of a Caramel Goddess “I’m Single Because?”


Are you also tired of talking about your singleness? There’s really nothing that we have to make excuses for. We’re enjoying our alone time before we have to be considerate and mindful of having a partner. That time will come in its due season. To rush to get into it without coming to an appreciation for your singleness will usually result in that person being a “single-married man/woman.” They will be discontent where they end up feeling as if they’ve settled and they’re missing out on something. Therefore, it’s essential that each of us appreciate our singleness. As Jennifer says: “Be content where you are, and happy where you are.”

Who is Jennifer Kemp? She’s a fashionista that attends the Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC, her style and influence are glam rock and rocker chic that candidly shares her stitch and seam visions and dreams in the blogosphere on youtube and wordpress.

Friday, October 16, 2009

When Real People Talk Fake People Walk



By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

As you can see The BOOTY Call Show now has a swanky new logo thanks to a collab with my dude JQ from PartyZone.us (good look).

It's great when you can call someone and tell them you need something and they say, "come through, let's get it done." Unlike the haters that always try to run your clock. They'll make promises like, "okay, I'll call you back..." and then you don't hear from until you leave them 3 messages and happen to bump into them someplace. Of course the first thing out of their mouth usually is, "...I got your messages..." which is probably why your mind wonders, "so if you got them, why the hell didn't you return them?" But nonetheless, you watch them fidget around and shift their weight to their right heel, while averting direct eye contact.

TRANSLATION: they're lying.

And it's not even like you're buying it, it's just that...I'm saying. I totally had a point in the beginning of this and then my fingers just kept typing as if I was speaking out loud. I'm not going to delete/edit this. I'm just going to leave it. You see when you're really doing you, you don't worry if others get it - you've got it. It's not that you're on your own d*ck, but rather you're not on anyone elses.

You feel me?

Okay, I've got a meeting to get to in 90 minutes, a show to do in 4 hours and I still don't know what I'm talking about. Imagine that... Hey, I may just play music. You never know. Anyway, tonight on The BOOTY Call Show is episode #12 and it's entitled, "Can We Talk?" This is inspired in part by my co-moderating a discussion next week at EBC. I'll definitely let you know how that goes... Here's the flyer.



Cool huh? Yep, so it's going to be real talk with singles and couples discussing the challenges of waiting, dating and mating in an open forum. I promise to not hog the mic and listen reflectively, exercise restraint and utilize discernment. Seriously, I do. No, seriously I do. LOL

Don't forget, tonight's the night on The BOOTY Call Show @ 10 p.m. - midnight.

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Thursday, October 15, 2009

Know Thyself



By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Did you know that the reason some people are pains in the *ss is because they're really afflicted with parasites? Seriously, the average person is totally ignorant of the necessity of total wellness because we've been conditioned to rely on healthcare rather than practice self-care.

In the book, "Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself" I delve into a process of removing the physical, emotional and spiritual parasites from your life throughout the book. It's a very thought-provoking dialogue which took many years to research.

Parasites use a Trojan horse plan of attack


This illustration shows how parasites contribute to the formulation of Malaria.

The parasite of religosity is also very dangerous


This is why it's essential that each of us be mindful about the spiritual coverings we submit and commit to ensuring they are in alignment with the Most High, not merely those who have call themselves to laud over others.

What are you giving birth to?


The above is from a person who had a uterine fibroid removed which also spring forth from parasite.

Know thy self...indeed.

Monday, October 12, 2009

Still Moooonnnkeying Around...





By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Hmm...this doll could be endorsed by the "Boss" rapper William Leonard "Rick Ross" Roberts II who's also fond of calling black people "moooooonnnnkey" as he repeatedly said to 50 Cent during their recent beef in which he got pummeled into virtual obscurity. So, if we're going to get mad about Costco selling lil' monkey dolls, get mad about Rick Ross and stop giving him a pass because you nod your head to his music. It's terrible that they would put out a product like this, but its hypocritical for us to get upset about them and then not deal with our own. Remember, Rick Ross began making those mooooooooonnnnnkey" comments mere days after the cartoon illustration depicting President Obama as a monkey. Let's stop the double-standards. If it's wrong for "them" it's wrong for "us" too.

Let's end the mongrelization of ALL people of color by ALL people.

Stop monkeying around people. Get Your Mind Right, it's not a Game out here. On this week's The BOOTY Call Show we're going to be doing it a little different. Stay tuned for details during the week.

In the meantime, and in between time, check out last Friday's show episode #10, "Reclaiming Your Personal Power" and don't forget to peep the archives to catch up.

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Tramp

Got ho self-esteem? Here's a flashback from the past.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Salt-n-Pepa "Tramp"


( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Shawty Put f/Lil Jon "Dat Baby"

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE?

Just because some call you unapproachable, doesn’t mean you’re not coachable.

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Sometimes we become stagnant in our growth because we don’t reexamine our approach to personal development. We change people, places and things, but until we commit to change ourselves, we’ll keep ending up with the same results. Ask yourself: whose baggage am I carrying?

You’re a Pigeon
Keep it 100 – you’re no swan or dove, especially when surrounded by your bird brain entourage of cluck heads. “If you’re an eagle, stop hanging out with pigeons,” is what I tell singles that desire to get to the next-level in love + life.

You’re A Lemon Head
If people nicknamed your street Sour Patch Lane that’s an indicator that you need to stop being so bitter and focus on becoming better. The only one that want to hang out with misery is…misery.

You Talk Too Much
If you’re always talking that’s a telling sign you’re not a good listener. Sure we all can get chatty sometimes, but you have learn to appreciate having a Jodeci moment – Don’t talk…Just listen.

You’re A Ho
Hey, if that’s who and what you are – be and do you. However, someone that desires a housewife would be unwise to get involved with you will you’re still in your ho season exhibiting ho self-esteem.

Until next time…Be 100% authentically Y-O-U!

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Reclaiming Your Personal Power

It's time to reclaim your personal power today!




By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Recently, I began challenging the life-limiting double standards that are in man-to-woman relationships leading to many men surrendering their personal power to women by being manipulated into having sexual relationships. I’ve been a guest and sharer on a number of shows on waiting, dating and mating issues. Here’s an exchange from one this week where the topic was “Is it Difficult to Be Celibate & Should Black Women Date Outside of Their Race?”


S-Dot on Talk About It Today! With Mo Stegall on BlogTalkRadio 10/5/09 show

S-Dot: When I made that decision (to get my mind right), that decision, although I was attending church and so forth, that wasn’t about church. That was about me deciding that I wasn’t going to allow some woman to kill me with a disease. And when I got to that point in my growth, I recognized that a lot of the sex that I was having, I wasn’t having actual intimacy. It was just a lot of sex. And I won’t stand here and act like it was terrible because while I was doing it, it was a good time.

Mo Stegall: You enjoyed every bit of it!

S-Dot: Absolutely! But one of the best things that I know and I recognize where I am right now, is that, when I removed having all the sexual activity with women, I began to gain a lot of clarity in terms of my relationships. So, you know…BBD has the song, “You can’t trust a big butt and a smile that girl is poison”

Mo Stegall: You got that right.

S-Dot: Well, now I’m better able to see those who are poisonous. You know it’s interesting because…you know, I’m far from an unattractive man, and I meet a lot of women, and the women that I meet they immediately want to try to have sex. And when I tell them you know, “I’m not interested in that,” the first thing out of their mouth is, “are you gay?”

Mo Stegall: Right.

S-Dot: And it’s a question of my manhood. However, when a woman makes a decision about going through a period of celibacy, whether it’s until she’s married, or it’s because she’s at a point where she wants to get her mind right – that question isn’t there. But when a man does that, it’s all of a sudden a matter of challenging his manhood. So, why do you think that is?



Check out the rest of the show...( ( ( Hear it Yourself ) ) )

Stay tuned for Episode #10 of The BOOTY Call Show on Blog Talk Radio
On this empowering show inspiring author, motivational speaker and empowerment coach S-Dot will share his intuitive insights and lived-and-learned wisdom from "Exposing the Game" on love + life with singles and couples that are ready to get to the next-level in their relationships by reclaiming their personal power. Grab a pen and pad to take notes it's going to be an informative show of transformational conversation with some surprise guests. Friday, October 9th at 10 p.m. Call-in to share your thoughts from your mobile, home or office phone 347.308.8527

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Funeral Arrangements for John "Mr. Magic" Rivas (R.I.P.) will be this Thursday, October 8th at 10 a.m.

Where: St. Barbara’s Roman Catholic Church, 138 Bleeker St (Bet Central & Wilson Ave) - Bushwick, Bklyn

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Swag v. Substance



( ( ( Let’s Keep it Real Talk ) ) )

Peops,

Take a look around, there are countless people – young and old – who think just because they have swagger they don't have to graduate to having actual substance.

For example, in recent months we've witnessed the implosion of swaggerific rapper William "Rick Ross" Leonard Roberts II in his outrageous "beef" with hip-hop titan Curtis "50 Cent" Jackson. Rick Ross assumed that just because he hid behind shades and makes head nodding music that would distract audiences from some very serious character challenges; like being a deadbeat dad, repeatedly misleading others about his past and wearing knockoff LV shades claiming they're custom-made only to get blown up by the manufacturer. WTF!



Has swagger replaced substance? Has faking it replaced making it?

These days it seems like "swagger" has become the new "cool." But are people hiding behind faking it to keep from actually making it? On the next show (episode #8) S-Dot & Ms. Indi will be discussing Swagger v. Substance to examine what's really going on or going wrong with today's consciously social community. We'll be sharing some tips on how to stop being lame to actually mastering "the rules" and winning the Game. Join us on Friday, Oct 2 @ 10 p.m. (Eastern) call-in to share your thoughts at 347.308.8527.

HATER ADVISORY - This show is for REAL people, about REAL things, move fakers are strongly cautioned it's going to be REAL talk.

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Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Peep Game - New Episode

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What it do peops?

Had a very lively show this evening on BlogTalkRadio the topic was "Peep Game" and weighing in was my dude filmmaker/music producer Kenny Dynamite Hassell, as well as author, speaker and empowerment coach Hasheem Francis, my joan (homie) Kiran and 2wo (one of the divine 9ine women that taught me the guiding principles of my life). She also overshared my business (lol).

The conversation was pretty interesting. Click by and listen into the archives (episode #6 yourself), also "When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong" (episode #5) and "The Ex Factor" (episode #4) are worth checking out as well. Share your thoughts and feedback and thanks for listening.



Author, Speaker, Empowerment Coach

Shaam S-Dot Jones

The S-Dot Files

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My co-host Ms. Indi the FemBot just put me onto this DVD a few days ago. It sounds pretty interesting.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Traci Townsend



A life-changing, provocative book, EXPOSING THE GAME introduces the “secret” rules to those that have been played. With man-to-man talk, brotherly advice to women, EXPOSING THE GAME is perfect for couples just getting started or trying to make sense of the mess they’ve made of their relationships.

Get healed and be delivered.

The S-Dot Files is a total wellness empowerment platform powered by social media infotainment featuring advice-driven content that provides practical tips and thought-provoking insights on topic such as; family, faith, relationships, finances and more. With helpful resources for everyday people, like you!

( ( ( POWERED by a MAN of PURPOSE ) ) )

Copyright © 2009, The S-Dot Files

Peep Game

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

On tonight's episode (#6) of The BOOTY Call Show we'll be delving into "that thang" you know the one you let hit it...that never call you again? Okay, here's a reminder since you're frontin'.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Lauryn Hill "Doo Wop"


Remember, now? Thought so. It's going to be a thought-provoking conversation. Yep, even a ex or two will be weighing in. Join me and my co-host Ms. Indi the FemBot tonight at 8 p.m. (Eastern) on The S-Dot Files Radio on BlogTalkRadio call in 347.308.8527 or listen LIVE and chat.

( ( ( Hater Advisory ) ) ) This show is for REAL people doing REAL things. If you’re a move faker and keep it less than 100 this show may not be for you.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Kanye Gets *ssed Out by Obama

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files



Here's Kanye & Amber Rose backstage, I guess he'll "blame it on Henny..."

Peops,

Of course this week's The BOOTY Call Show will be delving into "When Keeping Real Goes Real Wrong" in response to recent overshares from Rep Joe Wilson (R-S.C.) on 9/9/09 in Congress in which he rebuked the president with "You lie!" and Kanye West on 9/12/09 at the VMAs making himself the awards police.

WARNING: Before you run your mouth...have a Jodeci moment - Don't talk...just listen. You'll save yourself lots of humiliation.

WHAT IS A NARCISSIST?
Take a gander at Kanye West. He epitomizes this disorder in every aspect. The egomaniacal ranting, and self-centeredness at every opportunity to make a public spectacle of himself. He a raging narcissist that’s clearly ready to crash and burn. His winner-hating display against Taylor Swift at the 2009 VMAs is a clear example of what happens when keeping it real goes too far.

Click by his site: www.KanyeUniversity.com to take a gander.

On his site he arrogantly displays every single cover he’s been on. It’s nothing wrong with being proud of one’s accomplishment, however with Kanye you can discern that he’s thumbing his nose at naysayers rather than relishing his accolades. It is this love/hate relationship with the limelight that has endured him for years to fans who until now gave his antics a pass. That pass has now been revoked.

Terry Moran a correspondent for ABC tweeted that president Obama called Kanye a “jackass” off the record while being interviewed by CNBC. Wow! That’s when you know you’re being put on blast when you’ve got B.O. P.O’d at you.

Here’s a clear indication when you’ve been put on ( ( ( blast ) ) )

Q: Were your girls as hacked off as mine were that Kanye gave Taylor Swift the Joe Wilson treatment?
Obama: I thought that was really inappropriate. You know it was like she's (Taylor Swift) getting an award -- why are you (Kanye West) butting in? I, I hear you -- I agree with you.
Q: So does that count as the first question?
Obama: The young lady seems like a perfectly nice person. She's getting her award. What's he doing up there? He's a jackass. (Laughter) No, now -- this -- all this stuff -- I'm assuming all this stuff. Where's the pool? Come on guys. Cut the president some slack. I got a lot of other stuff on my plate. Yeah. Cause I remember last time it was the fly thing. Now that was the highlight of (trails off)

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Obama calls Kanye a Jackass



DEFINITIVELY SPEAKING – there’s a new term added to the hip-hop lexicon for playing ones self, “You totally Kanye’d that.”

Kanye – to make buffoonish, unsolicited comments while intoxicated with narcissism in total disregard of others because you’re an attention-whore desiring all praise all the time.

TWEETOLOGY (APOLOGY VIA TWITTER)


There's hope for Kanye. Let's all be REAL we've played ourselves too! Let's keep it REAL talk.


Join my co-host Indi the FemBot and I on the next episode of The BOOTY Call Show as we keep it REAL talk with advice and tips for getting rid of your haters. Click by to connect + reflect www.BlogTalkRadio.com/thesdotfiles where you can chat LIVE or call-in from your home, work or mobile phone 347.308.8527 to listen and join in the conversation. Check out the archives.

( ( ( Hater Advisory ) ) ) This show is for REAL people doing REAL things. If you’re a move faker and keep it less than 100 this show may not be for you.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

The Vapors

Peops,

Click by and join me and my special guests on The BOOTY Call Show for a lively discussion on "The Vapors" on this week's show on BlogTalkRadio.

Got Played? On this episode inspiring author, motivational speaker, empowerment coach S-Dot will be joined by special guests to discuss “the Vapors” that moment when you get some get back on somebody that tried to play you. Join us Friday, Sept 4 @ 10 p.m. – 12:00 a.m. as we connect + reflect with REAL talk from REAL people about how-to handle it when you’ve been played and finally get an opportunity to have your “hi-haters!” moment.

Call in and join the conversation: 347.308.308-8527 or click by and chat LIVE!


( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Biz Markie "The Vapors" (Live)

Sunday, August 23, 2009

Tips on Dating & Mating

For this blog, I'd like to share some personal insights and observations that I've included in singles and couples seminars. I've recently come across a book that outlined many of the things that I've been sharing with people for years and I was pleasantly surprised by the author's similarity in thinking.

5 Steps of Dating & Mating
1.
Being friends – hangout in the neighborhood with the types you want in your life
2. Dating non-committed – take stock of the landscape without limiting your opinions
3. Dating exclusively – lay the foundation, but don’t behave as if you’re married
4. Engagement – discuss your building plans for a life together
5. Marriage – add the additional rooms; learn to love and grow

Write Your 3 Lists
1.
Must-haves (Chill)
2. Compromises (Hmm…)
3. Hell Naws (Run!)

Whatever is on your heart or mind should be on these lists. It’s not shallow to have a preference, so stand on your truth. Be honest about what it is you desire, and remember these lists are about you gaining clarity. They’ll be very helpful towards you vision casting for the life you want. Don’t be stingy, be specific.

Be honest about your dating others, but sparing of the details during those dates. Use discretion, and do not intentionally overshare inflicting hurtfulness onto others.

If you don’t feel comfortable enough to admit to the life you’re living aside from your dating that person, you should reconsider why you’re dating them. Anyone that tries to accelerate the process passive-aggressively or otherwise should be addressed and removed if necessary. If they don’t know how to be your friend, don’t let them pretend they’re you’re partner.

Remember, you’re ideal partner is someone that’s ready, willing and available to be your friend. Don’t allow people to cage you into corners and use a smoother method to bewitch you into continuing with your life while you’re still getting to know one another. Do not place yourselves in compromising situations which will cloud your ability to objectively discern this individual’s truth absent of physicality and inappropriate emotional bonding.

This week on The S-Dot Files Radio we'll be discussing love + life issues delving into the how-tos for deciding when its time to take your relationship to the next level. Join us for a lively discussion Thursdays @ 11 p.m. (eastern) on BlogTalkRadio click by www.blogtalkradio.com/thesdotfiles and call-in to share 347.308.8527 on The BOOTY Call Show.

This blog content was inspired in part by The Five Phases of Dating, by Anita Charlot

Friday, July 31, 2009

Fembots...The Perfect Woman?

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Are you still searching for the elusive "The One"? Join the club. LOL I thought this was a sad usage of technology + sex = sexology. A Fembot, which is a feminized robot (gynoid) that provides "assistance" to male in search of sex without the hassle of an actual relationship.

Now, you too can objectify women in a whole new Stepford Wives 2.0 way. That's right get your Fembot, you poor, lonely bastard!!!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Fembots “The Perfect Woman?”


Fembots give a whole new meaning to the term: Man in the machine (lol).

Thursday, July 23, 2009

What Not To Do In An Interview

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Karrine Steffans “The Vixen Manual”


This is clearly an example of poor media coaching. Every author should know that teleprompter readers usually don’t have the time to read their books cover-to-cover and should not go postal because of that. Focus! This is an interview to promote your book, not be “offended” because someone doesn’t read your book.

Karrine needs a PR Manual because she’s an interviewer’s nightmare with that brattitude. Grow up, this is the publishing game – stop pushing your “complete guide and manual” without thinking that you’ll be asked about the actual content. If your book is packaged in a way that prevents it from being properly scrutinized by viewers who are your intended readership, it’s the interviewer’s job to delve into the content. Duh!

And lastly, NEVER tell an interviewer they aren’t “asking intelligent questions” or you can expect your book to be a dud. And you’ll end up being characterized as, “a rump shaker in a bunch of videos.” Ouch!

Until next time...work on your interviewing techniques peops.

Monday, July 6, 2009

Is that Cheechos in those Jeans?

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files



Have you ever noticed that unsightly gathering of blubber that is rising above the waistlines of people's jeans? Well, that's called cheechos, and it's getting out of control. If you have that 'muffin top' of flab, it's time to go to the gym.

RULE OF TUM: If your belly protrudes as much as your booty, you need to workout and reconsider that outfit.

This fashion advisory has been brought to you by The S-Dot Files - govern yourselves accordingly.

Friday, July 3, 2009

The Tribute to the King

This video montage set to "Who's Loving You" is a brillant time capsule of the incomparable legend of the man that broke the barriers of sound in music - Michael Jackson.


( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Michael Jackson Tribute


1958 - 2009 (Gone too soon) Farewell brother Michael Joseph Jackson

You are going to die. It doesn’t matter if the world knows your name; you’re still going to die. People can walk around with your image emblazoned on t-shirts and memorabilia; you’re still going to die. You can have a roomful of awards and expressions of recognition; you’re still going to die.

Just ask Michael Jackson.

- Excerpt from the forthcoming still untitled book on RTK Communications (stay tuned...)

Monday, June 29, 2009

So It Begins...

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Wanted to share this clip from last night's BET Awards show in LA with Joe Jackson, Michael's father doing an on-camera interview that is both sad and weird. It's strange to see Mr. Jackson plug his recording ventures and elude to business matters during such a time as this. Of course we all grieve differently, but when the publicist reads that bland statement I really felt so profoundly sadden by this display of spin control.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing BET Awards "Joe Jackson"


Is it me or does Joe Jackson bear a strange resemblance to 'Blackula'? (Hey, don't get mad at me for having eyes)

I'll of course have much more to say on this ongoing series of events. Stay tuned...

Friday, June 26, 2009

Michael Jackson - Music of The Icon

By S-Dot The S-Dot Files

Here's my imeem.com/thesdotfiles playlist dedicated to Michael Jackson. I hope you enjoy this sampling of some of his most memorable moments in music.

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Michael Jackson "The Icon"

MJJ - Living Icon

Farewell Michael Joseph Jackson, I pray that you find favor and grace in your final resting place.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

A Song for Taylor & Indi

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files



( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing The Whitehead Bros. "Beautiful Black Princess"

Beatiful Black Princess - Whitehead Brothers

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Before I Let You Go

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing BlackStreet “Happy Home”

17 Happy Home.wma - BlackStreet

Click by and check out the playlists today!


CAUTION: This book will cause cheaters to panic and sleepers to wake up!

Just because you have it going on sexually, doesn’t mean you can’t be hurt emotionally. In fact, when I tied my self-worth to my sexual identity is when I was wounded the most severe.

I once dated this med student (“B”) that was unquestionably wife-material, but I still wasn’t husband-ready. We both knew and discussed that upfront. She saw “something special” in me and wanted to just “chill” until I opened my eyes. Of course being a player, I had no problem “running the clock,” which is what players do when they waste someone’s time with no intention of allowing them to actually score a commitment (win).

Anyway, we had romantic dinners. There were many nights when we simply just watched videos or listened to old school CDs singing along being silly sipping white zifandel. I spent intimate evenings reading to her when it rained, which calmed her down because she hated the thunder and would cry when she saw lightning. We shopped together and did one another’s weekly laundry. Went to family functions together. Eventually, we visited one another’s relatives, even in the hospital.

My family elders counseled, “Boy, don’t you screw this up.”

I was diggin’ her and totally intimidated by the feelings she inspired in me. I felt myself getting dizzy and starting to swoon when we kissed at times. Everyone that knows me knows I’m not a kisser. So, that was yet another barrier that I broke down with her.

We did all the things couples do, but I always reminded her after she’d look at me with those beautiful doe-eyes, “You know we’re just kickin’ it right?” And she’d say, “Don’t worry Mr. Man, I know you don’t want to settle down. At least not with me. I understand.” Then she’d give herself to me physically with such intensity that I came to recognize this cat-and-mouse scenario was mutually arousing for both of us.

That thang had us jonesin’ hard.

I even thought about giving her the elusive “key” one day. But then I woke up and realized I was having a nightmare.

One night coming from a party, we were drag racing this Puerto Rican couple in a Mustang on the FDR blasting Blackstreet’s “Baby Be Mine” from their debut album, and I serenaded her doing 90 mph. It was so erotic, we pulled over after we crossed the Brooklyn Bridge, and found a spot where we tore it down right there on the side of the road. At 3 a.m. in the morning. It was scorching hot! Our relationship had an unquenchable passion to it.

Until this day, I can’t hear the songs, “U Blow My Mind” “Physical Thing” and “Make U Wet” and not smile.

( ( ( Peep Game ) ) )
Keys to the Kingdom is a tactic that widows use…a guy may buy his nagging girlfriend a ring to make her “wifey” but she’ll suffocate holding her breath waiting for them to actually get married. Sure, he’ll give you the keys to the…but there’ll be no driving. You’re going for that fool’s gold.

From the forthcoming book, Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself (RTK Communications)

Message The S-Dot Files your e-mail address to receive a FREE copy of the eBook, Exposing the Game.

Friday, June 12, 2009

Imagine That!!!

Yippee!!! It's time for Taylor and I to finally go and see "Imagine That" this weekend. Check out the trailer.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Imagine That movie trailer


We've been looking forward to this for months since it's similar to our own daddy daughter story. Taylor used to come into the office all the time when I was at the helm of the magazine. She'd walk around the office with her little clipboard "interviewing" the models, celebs and others for the magazine. It was so cute.

Now, it's in theaters. Check it out if you get a chance and let me know your thoughts.

Also, it's Relationship Weekend at EBC as well. Yep, singles, singles and more singles. This promises to be a very interesting weekend. Tonight is Game Night (bring an unattached friend, you're NOT interested in for some cards, boardgames and Wii), tomorrow are the relationship workshops and Sunday sums up a transformative experience for those who are single, involved and married.

If you can, come out and join us. It's going to be a great time.

Oh, and shout out to Derrick Phillips from the Real Dads Network who's featured in a one-page piece in today's Daily News' Spotlight on Great People section. The piece is entitled "Fighting to Preserve Family" features him alongside Tammy Greer Brown, president and CEO of Celebrating Real Family Life giving an account of brother Derrick's steadfast resolve to becoming the dad he never had for his two daughters Jordyn, 13 and Maya, 9 with his wife Maria.

Good stuff, brother Derrick. I'm very proud of you. Keep up the great work, and don't stop winning the good fight.

In the World…
50’s scent Power is coming to Macy’s this fall for those of you folks that want to smell like your wealthy. Do you smell that? It smells like...kaching (lol).

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Today Was a Great Day!!!

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Jay-Z "Death of Auto Tune"


A moment of silence...La da da da hey hey hey...gooodbye!!!

THE STREETS ARE TALKING: Skinny jeans are officially over! Let them go. Ringtone rap is hereby placed on probation until further notice. And Auto Tune is a wrap!

And now back to blogging...

Ever have one of those days that you know you'll remember fondly throughout your life? I had one of them today.

It wasn't one particular thing, but rather the culmination of several that made this day standout. Let's see...I got up and lollygagged around around until 1 p.m. Then I did laundry, which is always therapeutic for me. Nothing like clean underwear to make you feel all brand-new. LOL. Then I went home and got all swaggerific and spiffy in a two-piece, double-breasted suit, powder blue button down with french cuffs, some D&G Light Blue and my swags (shades) and it was on and poppin'. I was ready to go.

So, I met up with my attention-grabber (codename: "Eartha") on the subway, and we went to the Real Dads Network's Celebration of Black Fathers semi-formal dinner in Harlem. She was wearing a really cute black dress with a shawl and nice clutch. Her shoes were in her hand and she was wearing ballet shoes. She said, "When we get there, I can put these ballet shoes in my bag." Gangster! Of course, we arrived 45 minutes from the scheduled time, which was actually 15 minutes before the time it started. Which meant, we were able to go window shop on 125th for a few minutes and I got to watch her catwalk and simply be beautiful. She's quite a looker. Definitely different. Can't put my finger on why...but I'm enjoying this getting-to-know each other phase.

You know that tension and anticipation of knowing you're going to hang out with someone and you're self conscious of everything from your deodorant to your breath mints? Or maybe that's just me. LOL

Anyway, the awards ceremony was great. We were both talking about food en route, so we arrived hungry. Soon as we sat down she was like, "Ummm...they've got salad over there. I'm starving. I hope they're going to serve the food during the awards." I had to respect her steez. I love a woman that is not afraid to say she's hungry. LOL She kept it real talk. We tore that salad up, and it was kinda cool when she reached for and handed me a roll. That's when I realized, I haven't been out on a REAL date in a minute. LOL I stole a few glances at her. I busted her stealing some back. We smiled and visually flirted. She's got such a beautiful smile. I know I said that, but that woman could do a toothpaste commercial.

Then her leg touched mines under the table and I felt that jolt of electricity. Damn, I thought I was in the movie Grease, I could've sworn I heard somebody (okay it was my overactive imagination) say, "I got chills / they're multiplying / power / it's electrifying." As you can read, I clearly need to get out more...

Where was I? Okay, so brother John Amos of the classic tv show "Good Times" and the mini-series "Roots" was given a Lifetime achievement award tonight by my dude Derrick Phillips, Executive Director of the RDN. John Amos kept it real talk throughout his acceptance monologue. He shared some of his life's testimony. In particular, how his dad abandoned him when he was 2 years old, and his mom told him to grow up and be strong so he could find his dad and "whip his *ss." We were crying with laughter. John is hilarious. Then he shared how he later came to live with that very same dad and was honored to come to know him as a man. John said that the James Evans character was patterned after his own father, who was a man of integrity and stood up for his family, right or wrong. At one point, this accomplished writer, actor, producer and legend broke down in tears sharing portions of his life. It was touching to see and inspiring to witness.




These days...The John Amos Radio Show with co-host Terahshea McCray comes on daily from noon to 1 p.m. EST on www.urbannetwork.com featuring healthy lifestyle topics ranging from nutrition to exercise, click by and check it out. He's also starring in a Halley's Comet, a thought-provoking one man show directed by John Harris Jr. that takes the audience on a 76 year journey through the life experiences of a man looking back on everything from the ozone layer to the civil rights movement.



Also in the house was sister Terri M. Williams, author, advocate and media maverick whose portfolio of titles includes: Black Pain, A Plentiful Harvest, Stay Strong and Personal Touch. It's always a joy and inspiration to see this trailblazer in public relations. If you, or someone you know is suffering and struggling with depression, click by and check out what's new with this dynamic, passionate woman of purpose: www.TerriWilliams.com



Finally, it was also great to listen to 16-year old singing sensation Najiyah Threatt's rousing rendition of "Hero." She's so talented and geniunely committed artist to honing her craft faithfully.

Well, that's enough sharing for now. Thanks for reading. Have a blessed day. Thanks to all my brothers from the Real Dads Network for yet another outstanding event.

( ( ( Man Up! ) ) )


www.RealDadsNetwork.com - Making Connections One Dad at Time

Saturday, June 6, 2009

Exposing the Game & Overcoming the Booty Excerpts

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Here's an excerpt to get you motivated...until Exposing the Game debuts. Enjoy!

“I wasn’t addicted to sex; I was strung out on a desire for love.”

( ( ( Peep Game ) ) )

THE ISOLATIONIST wants to sequester you away from those who exercise discretion and judgment. They sell you a dream of solitude to lure you away from others who can see through their falsehood. An advanced isolationist will make this all seem like your idea too.

Blurring the line is a process of placing prey under subjugation through a copulation technique called the ‘cuddle huddle’ that lulls them asleep. Done effectively, the intended person will lose their grip on actuality, becoming open to being reprogrammed with an alternate reality. They’ll see whatever the widow allows them to see. Hence, blurring the line of what’s really going on.

To accomplish this, a black widow learns how-to manipulate its prey sexually and increase their dependence on the oxytocin (commonly called the “love hormone” in women) released after stimulating encounters. Serotonin boning raises a partner’s levels during intimacy increasing the likelihood of turning a mark into a ‘Toby’.

The Other “O
Oxytocin zaps the heart and clobbers an unsuspecting partner over the head with sexually-induced amnesia.

Don’t isolate yourself. It’s important that you establish and sustain a network that affirms and supports your personal growth.

--- Get your copy of the book that's Exposing the Game, teaching the truth and demonstrates the proof. Got Played? It's time to learn the "secret" rules of the game, by a retired MVP player.

Message The S-Dot Files your e-mail address to receive a FREE copy of the eBook, Exposing the Game.

And now a watch-n-learn clip from the Got Played Archives on the campus of UNC

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Cheating Girlfriend Gets Owned



The S-Dot Files presents Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself and OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex (RTK Communications, 2009).

( ( ( Are You Dating-to-Save? ) ) )

A relational mismatch is when you're seeking love and receiving lust. You desire certainty and you're left with insecurity.

How-to grow in your relationships
1. Identify your stumbling blocks
2. Develop a hurdle jumping strategy
3. Put it in practice
4. Proceed with caution


Don't run...It’s time to OVERCOME.
Meet 9ine this fall in the explosive book that took 40 years to live...and started a movement. Here's an excerpt from the ‘get-over-it’ guide that everyone will be pretending they’re not reading (wink, wink):

9ine with all her spiritual credentials and theological academic training, in the end was still a woman that was unwilling to be faithful to God’s promise of real love. She, like me, struggled with her flesh. Having been similarly conditioned to mistake physical affection for genuine interest, she became the aggressor in our relationship intimately. We spent a number of times together with me clawing her hands from my crotch or begging her, “Woman, you need to stop…” as she soul kissed me her delicious mouth.

Don’t think that I was entirely innocent either. I was kissing and fondling back. But what I needed at that point was someone to tell me, “No, you’ve got to go.” But, we were in GodSexy…that thang the world can’t and won’t understand.

Find out what happens...Labor Day Weekend...OVERCOMING the BOOTY it’s time to start Breaking the Sex Hex.


Get healed and be delivered.

The S-Dot Files is a total wellness empowerment platform powered by social media infotainment featuring advice-driven content that provides practical tips and thought-provoking insights on topic such as; family, faith, relationships, finances and more. With helpful resources for everyday people, like you!

( ( ( POWERED by a MAN of PURPOSE ) ) )

Copyright © 2009, The S-Dot Files

Friday, May 15, 2009

It's Deeper Than Fact...Rick Ross the Pied Piper of Rap

This week’s blog is an exclusive Hall of Shame case study which illustrates how you can go from a bragger to being accused of having bootleg swagger. The subject of this investigative piece by The S-Dot Files is William Leonard Roberts II, known by his rap alias Rick Ross.

Ross has sustained several character questioning blows, the latest of which has Louis Vuitton blowing him up about wearing knockoff shades bearing their emblem on XXL’s “Rick Ross Up in Smoke” cover. Ricky’s preoccupation with bling has blinded him to the reality that his pockets don’t match his ‘$10 millionaire’ swagger, so he’s been known to rock knockoffs and bootleg the styles of others.

Ms. Tiallondra Kemp, the mother of William Leonard Roberts III, son of rotund rapper Rick Ross has put him on full blast. Her baby mama tell-all memoir, “Deeper than Rap” bears the same title as the Miami wordsmiths latest album, which debuted at #1 on Billboard, selling a measly 158,000 copies.

CHECKING TIA’S RESUME…
Rick coveted Tia the Liberty City native of the infamous Pork-n-Beans Projects whiles she was still an incarcerated man’s wife. The inmate’s wife stealer wooed her away with the false promise of the finer things in life. Of course this appealed to her after growing up in the 763-unit housing complex in a single-parent home, disenfranchised with a father sentenced to 40 years in prison. Rick recognized that as a representative of the very same system that locked up her father and former husband is how he ensnared her.

What she ended up with was his namesake William Jr. and him disrespecting her on Youtube for all the world to see.

In several recent media interviews Tia shares, he hasn’t seen his son since he took the truck back in January from the parking lot at their child support hearing. Rick also disregards texts from his ex. The mother of William Jr. says, “You ain’t got to talk to me. Holla at your son.” The rich deadbeat, has also been accused of not paying his child support for the last two months. “He ain’t sent a check or nothing.”

To counter and refuge these scathing charges, the fake Louis Vuitton wearing rhymer will likely have to provide copies of cancelled checks. Baby mamas everywhere are ramping up support of Tia against deadbeats globally. Ricky is really making a lot of around-the-way dudes in the hood catch heat.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Tia Tells the Truth on Rick “Fake Boss” Ross


Yes, it’s Deeper than Rap…
Brooke, his first baby’s mother’s daughter saw the clip of her having sex online. Now, even Tia’s son wants to see the video. Just imagine the shame and horror.

Selling Out…
The former corrections officer has three #1 debuts on Billboard. Last year’s “Trilla” sold 198,000 and 2006’s “Port of Miami” sold 189,000 their first week. This makes his latest album which should’ve debuted with no less than 300,000 in sales from all the publicity generated by his high-profile beef with rap titan 50 Cent a commercial flop. His newest album “Deeper than Rap” sold 158,000-175,000 (depending on your source), and those first week sales fell 68% the second week.

By contrast, 50 Cent’s first name “Curtis” sold 691,000 its first week and folks called it a flop. Clearly, the public has let this recession lull them into thinking that a difference of 516,000-533,000 in sales is not a huge difference. Duh!

Officer Ricky used to pat brothers down and strip search them for weapons and contraband. He closed their cell doors and locked them in cages like “mooonkeeees” as he loves calling people. His zookeeper-like taunts are proof of his need to get over himself. He makes catchy music, but it’s not that serious and he could be forgotten. He’s yet to make anything memorable enough for the type of noise that’s always coming out of his lying mouth. Fat boy should’ve just wrapped and not said a word with all the issues he’s got.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Julia Beverly Gives Rick Ross of BDR (Bad D*ck Report)


PLAYER ADVISORY: If you’re going to pick up the bat swing it player. Otherwise you’re going to be labeled a lame for swinging for mediocre scribes. Officer Ricky gives out-of-breath quickies and can’t wear out the booty. That’s a bad look.

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LISTENER OBSERVATION: Rick calls this radio host “my brother” repeatedly, but calls 50 Cent “mooonkeee” like a Klansman.

Switching sides: “It’s not about who sells more records.” (???) Then when he’s reminded by radio host that this is “business of music” he says “of course it is.” LOL

REAL TALK: From now on, Officer Ricky should be required to an ‘Oath of Truth’ before he begins all interviews since he’s got butterfingers with the truth. Otherwise the streets should mute out all statements made by this individual regardless of how catchy the musical backdrop. Remember, the Pied Piper lead young impressionable minds astray the same way.

The former corrections officer needs to practice corrective discipline when it comes to compulsion to lie because of his lust for money, power and respect. His anger and greed had led him to attach himself to people that feed his pride without checking his ego. Just looking at his body is evidence of his inability to watch his mouth.

Rick is greedy for the attention of others besides his children. He is lustful for the accolades of strangers and discards the love that others who’ve been duped by his lies have shown. In the eyes of many of the broken, battered and disappointed women in our communities, he epitomizes the ‘trapped man’ a brother imprisoned within the status quo.

The reason Rick is not a $100 millionaire is because he fails to address his liabilities and recklessly squanders his assets. He’s all flash and no cash. His fear of our ability to vet his past has lead to his compulsive lying campaign which he calls a media tour. Officer Ricky in each ensuing interview continues to show that he suffers from verbal diarrhea.

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Reality Chin-Checking…
Officer Ricky constantly says stuff like Dr. Dre should holla at him. He says he’ll end the beef if 50 “pay me to write his raps, and Dr. Dre give me five beats.” But if he’d just listen to Dre’s music catalogue, he’d find his own answer in tracks like “Deep Cover” and “F*ck the Police.”

Note to Officer Ricky: Dr. Dre doesn’t mess with the police.

A Man in Denial…
To claim of William Jr’s mother Tia, “this is a woman I was never personally attached to. I took it like she was an actress for a day,” is sad commentary. He had sex with that woman without a condom, now he was never personally attached to her? You can’t get any more personal than that. One day his son will be able to Youtube and hear his father deny his mother. This dude is serious not thinking long-term.

And then to claim that he hasn’t watched the video featuring Brooke, saying “of course I haven’t watched the video” the mother of his first child is downright ridiculous. He goes on, “For the record: I don’t know a Brooke.” Who would not look at the evidence against them in the public court of opinion? That is just an asinine statement to make.

Speculation is that he’s a Laurence Fishburne-like ‘Deep Cover’ operative working within the realms of music to build cases against street organizations. Word on the street is that Officer Ricky comes around burning trees and asking who’s got “that” in order to entrap them for the Hip Hop cops.

Tale from their Tapes…
William Leonard Roberts II (Rick Ross) worked at a jail and Curtis Jackson (50 Cent) has done time in a jail. And since prisons and COs don’t get along… Curtis’ street life lead to him getting five shots by rivals, William’s fabricated life has him pretending he shot at least five of his rivals. And someone took the movie ‘Deep Cover’ a little too serious. Both have adopted the names of street legends. 50’s namesake is deceased and Rick’s is witnessing his name die daily.

Big Willie sure loves to be silly, and really has slippery fingers when it comes to the facts. He embellishes nearly every word that comes out of his mouth. His confidence makes you want to root for him, but then he keeps talking and you end up just wishing he’d shut his pie hole.

Bootleg Swagger…
In hip-hop eyewear is also know as ‘swags’ so for Ross to be caught on the cover of XXL wearing fake floss LV glasses is embarrassing. Particularly, since the luxury brand sent a letter of clarification to the hip hop publication notifying the streets of yet another lie from embellishing rapper. The LV brand spokesperson said in a letter to clarify several points to the magazine: “The first is that the sunglasses Mr. Ross is wearing were not made by Louis Vuitton and, in fact, are counterfeit. Louis Vuitton did not grant permission to Mr. Ross or to whoever did make the sunglasses to use our trademarks. The second is that no affiliation, sponsorship or association exists between Rick Ross or XXL and Louis Vuitton. The third is that counterfeiting is illegal.” Ouch!!!

Officer Ricky’s undoing is William Leonard Roberts II. His truths keep coming to light.

So, on that note let’s check out some comedy that Officer Ricky has inspired in the blogosphere. Enjoy!

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With Rick Ross...it's Deeper than Facts (lol).